How often do you make assumptions about other people? Honestly.
As a coach and someone who facilitates our retreats, I would like to believe that I have evolved to a place of deeper awareness and that I have significantly reduced the number of times when I make assumptions. And then I find… not so much.
One of the most egregious assumptions I ever made was around my brother-in-law, Rick. As many of you know, my sister (his wife) was killed in a car accident in 2002. My sister’s three-month old baby, Kenzie (she’s now 15) was also in the car and the impact of the crash caused her to be left permanently and severely brain damaged, blind and physically disabled. After the accident, I made the assumption that my brother-in-law was going to “take off and disappear,” and I shared that assumption with others.
I could not have been more wrong. I felt so convicted about the error of my assumption that I made a public amends to Rick at my wedding reception. He has become one of the most amazing, loving, giving fathers I have ever met. I am humbled by his sacrifice.
Watch this video. What comes up for you? What impact are we having in the world when we make assumptions about people? What sort of ‘glasses’ are you wearing? Is it time for a new prescription?